There is a small group of women that I know can relate to this. Pilot wives and, in a small margin of similarity, military wives can also relate (I have been a military wife, too). So I try to do my sisters justice. Here we go:
- I do not know when my husband will be home. NEVER. I don’t know what day of the week he will be home and if he is presently at work, I do not know when he will be home. This is the cause for subsequent facts.
- He misses holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, funerals. Please do not ask me if my husband will make it. I usually wont know until about 2 hours before we show up. No one wishes you had more notice than me, so please do not complain about it.
- His job is extremely stressful. Aside from worrying about furloughs or forced assignments, people die on the rail A LOT! So when the hubs is stressed, Mama is stressed. And when Mama is stressed you better believe a couple of things may happen. Either the house will be spotless, or mama needs a couple extra hours in the morning to recover.
- When the money is good, we don’t go on vacations because he’s never home. When the money is bad, we live off the savings we built up from when it was good. I shop at yard sales and barter for things. My kids wear hand-me-downs and I havent had a new blouse that didn’t come off the clearance rack since before I had children.
- I have 2 different baby sitters; one for each kid. They are also paid on days the kids do not go because I usually can’t cancel the sitter until that night or an hour before they are supposed to be there. I pay them a premium for just being available.
- Sometimes I am alone, a lot. Sometimes I don’t see my husband for a week even though he is home because when I come home from work he’s leaving and he comes home when I am asleep and sleeps when I get up in the morning. These times, though it is hard to do on my own, I am thankful for because it gives me an opportunity to miss him and what he does for our family when he is home.
Its tough, but it works for us. I know years down the road, we will be thankful that we stuck out the hard years of low seniority. Hope everyone has an awesome week!